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Women are a strange breed and often it’s confusing trying to figure out whether or not they are in the mood for sex, and whether or not you can put them in the mood for sex. Every woman is different, and we all have our turn-ons, but there are some things that seem to be common to most women. The following are some tips on how to put your woman in the mood, or to help create the right mood for sex.

- Women are strongly affected by their sense of smell, and often the right smell is all that is needed to turn them on. Shop for incense together and find one that you both like. Find bath bombs, oils, or bubbles and bathe together before lovemaking. If you stick to one particular scent for your lovemaking, you will find that it becomes associated with sex. Using that scent will then help set the mood in the future. Be sure to ask your woman if she enjoys cologne. If she does, find one that she likes and wear it (sparingly, too much cologne is a huge mistake). You will become a much more attractive mate if you smell good. Research has shown that women that describe their men as smelling “musky” or “spicy” are much more likely to stay with them than the ones that describe them in negative ways. And I’m willing to bet those men get more sex. To this day, there are certain bath bombs that make me horny if I should happen to smell them and it’s very hard to resist men that wear certain kinds of cologne.

- Changing the lighting can set the mood for sex. Everyone has heard about using candles to seduce women, but why not try Christmas lights instead. The human body looks sensual in dim colored light and invites you to explore one another. When the Christmas lights go on, I know that I’m in for a night of wild lovemaking and it really puts me in the mood.

- Try changing the sheets on the bed to a deep red or blue, add soft fluffy pillows, or get rid of the pillows altogether. Make room for your lovemaking and clean up the mess on the floor. It’s hard to be in the mood when you’re grappling with the laundry. If nothing else, try a different room. Camp out in the livingroom, clear off the table, get up on the counter, or do it in the bathtub.

- Kiss more! Kiss her until you can’t stand kissing anymore. Most women require kissing to get into the mood, and a lot of it. Don’t touch her breasts, and definately not between her legs, until you have spent due time kissing. Let your hands wander down her back, stroke her arms, caress her hips, but don’t stop kissing. Kiss until you can feel her getting horny, until she feels more urgent in her kisses.

- Talk to her. Many women will get turned on if you tell them what you like about their bodies, and what you want to do to them. Sometimes dirty talk can be difficult, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. Talk about the things she does that turns you on. Tell her what you like her to do with her hands and mouth. Describe what you are going to do to her that evening and how you are going to make her feel. Talk about her ass, her legs, her breasts, her lips… and kiss her while you’re talking. And when you both get talking dirty, you can begin to talk about your fantasies and things that you’ve always wanted to try in bed, and you’ll find your future sex sessions getting better than you ever imagined. You’ll never get the things you really want if you never tell each other about them. If you are really worried about sharing your fantasies, make a rule that you will not carry out these fantasies, but rather share them like stories. Sometimes fantasies are better kept in your head, but that doesn’t mean they can’t make a good porn-time story.

- Stroke her entire body. Don’t keep your hands on her tits only, let them roam over her shoulder, down her inner arm, to her hip and onto her thighs. Rub the small of her back, the curve of her ribs, the base of her neck, the side of her cheek and down again. Women make love with their whole bodies, unlike men who really only need attention in one place. If you turn on her whole body she’ll feel everything more intensely as things heat up.

- Pay attention to her breasts after things begin to get hot. Not all women like this, so watch for her body language, or just ask her. If she enjoys it, spend time here touching, caressing, stroking, licking and sucking. Start gently and work your way up to more vigorous attention. The nipples can be the key to the clitoris with some women so your work shouldn’t go unnoticed.

- When you move down between her legs, never start at the clitoris! If you don’t know what the clit is, please go do some reading. Your woman will thank you a thousand fold if you do. Assuming you know, DO NOT start with the clitoris when you go down on your woman. Women need to be warmed up beyond all the kissing stroking and touching that you’ve already done. Pay attention to her inner thighs. Stroke her lips and pay attention to all parts of her pussy. Play gently at first and admire what you see. Talk to her about it and tell her what you like about her pussy. Caress everything gently. The key is to build up tension and enhance her pleasure. Begin licking carefully over every part of her, tasting and enjoying yourself.

- Now you should be able to start on her clitoris. Again, start gently and slowly. Build up speed and pressure with time and this way you will build up her excitement. I’m assuming you must have some knowledge as to what makes your woman feel good in this particular department, but if you don’t, watch her body and listen for moaning. Experiment with different movements of your tongue. Try circles, up and down, side to side, sucking, pulling, nibbling, and so on. Making the same movement over and over again is most often annoying, but if one particular movement is really successful, it may be a bad move to change what you are doing.

- Some hints for oral sex: The left hand side of a woman’s clitoris is more sensitive. This would be your right hand side if you are facing her between her legs. The clitoris is a bundle of nerves that branch out and run down either side of a woman’s pussy. This means that while you are paying attention to her clit, you can give her extra pleasure by gently massaging between the labia. Using your fingers inside of her you can locate her g-spot and give her an extra dose of pleasure while licking her clit. The g-spot is located behind the clitoris, and you can stimulate the nerves of her clit there as well. To locate her g-spot, slip your finger(s) inside of her with your fingerprints facing up towards the ceiling. Slide them upwards along the inside of her and you will feel her curve gently upwards. This is a spongy sort of wall and it should be her g-spot. It is about two inches inside. You should be able to tell by her responses to you whether it feels good or not.

After all this, you should be able to get down to business. If your woman isn’t warmed up by now (or screaming with ecstasy), you haven’t spent enough time on something, most likely the kissing right at the beginning. Of course, this is just one way the evening can begin. If you want, after all that kissing, oral sex might be performed on you instead. Or possibly your fingers will do some of the work and get her ready for a good fuck. The important thing is to set the mood and start things slowly. Taking your time can be difficult, but the payoff is enormous if you get your lady really horny.

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