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When I was younger, I believed that doctors were gods… they knew everything! However, as I grew older, I soon learned that there are a lot of things they simply don’t know much about, and one of those things is the female orgasm.

Sure, they know what happens physically when a woman cums, but there’s very little information available for women that have problems reaching an orgasm or lack the desire to have one. We have all kinds of solutions available to men that suffer from sexual dysfunction, from implants to Viagra, but what exists for women? Let’s take a look on the internet and explore the different options available for ladies today.

With the Viagra boom, I think big pharmaceutical companies finally opened their eyes to a previously untapped market, women with troubled sex drives. And just now, we are seeing the beginnings of this revelation.

Take this article from CNN on the experimental testosterone patch for menopausal women. This could be the new treatment that women have been waiting for to increase their libido!

A doctor by the name of Stewart Meloy accidentally discovered a spot in the spine where electrical stimulation can cause orgasm. He’s currently working with a company to make a remote control orgasm machine. You can read about it in this news article from Wired.

If you don’t want to wait for the orgasm machine, there is a company online that currently markets a product called Slightest Touch. With this one, you attach two pads to your ankles, and the unit uses “a set of gentle pulsing and tingling frequencies that a woman can just lightly feel” to bring yourself close to orgasm. The machine is supposed to bring you close, allowing you or your partner to do the rest. I’ve never tried this product, and though I’ve seen testimonials online, I’m skeptical at this point about how such a thing could work. Read an article from Wired about Slightest Touch.

Then there are all kinds of creams available through adult stores and websites that make all kinds of claims regarding how they help women climax. Considering they are topically applied to the clitoris, I imagine the only thing they can possibly do is make the clit more sensitive through warming, cooling, or irritating your skin. I’m not too optimistic about creams, but I’ll be reviewing some on the site in the near future.

Currently, my favorite tool for increasing sexual pleasure is the vibrator. There are thousands of sex toys out there, offering all kinds of options for the woman that wishes to explore her orgasm through vibration. If you’ve never used a vibrator, I highly recommend buying yourself one and checking it out. It’s best to learn through experience, and only you can figure out what you like and what you don’t like.

Vibrators are made out of all kinds of materials from hard plastic to high tech feels-just-like-skin rubber. Some of them come with only one speed, while others offer speeds ranging from not-quite-there to oh-my-god-I’m-seeing-double-it’s-so-fast! There are vibrators that vibrate with a low rumbling type of vibration while others are a super-fast-make-you-grit-your-teeth-buzzing type of vibration. They come as tiny as your pinky finger or big enough to make the dirtiest pervert blush. Some of them look like a penis, while others could sit next to your computer and nobody would be any wiser.

With sex toys, it’s best to go shopping, peruse the selection, and pick something that appeals to you. Maybe you like the color, the size, or the shape… but select one and try it out. From there, the possibilities are endless. Get on the sex toy train and ride ladies!

And if you don’t already, masturbate without sex toys! Explore your pussy thoroughly and get to know her intimately. Look at yourself with a mirror! Touch yourself in all kinds of ways, hard, soft, fast, slow, and discover what you enjoy. If you’ve never masturbated before, it can take time to learn what pleases you, and maybe several sessions before you will experience an orgasm. Have patience, and simply enjoy learning more about yourself.

And what about sex drive? First I will tell you what any family doctor would, get lots of sleep, eat right, and get some exercise. You can’t expect your body to perform if you aren’t taking care of it. If you are completely lacking a libido, you might need to discuss with your doctor and make sure there are no underlying health issues. From there, much of sex drive is mental, and sex is contagious. Think about sex, and you’ll start thinking about it more often. Have sex, and suddenly you’ll want more sex. Do the things that you know make you horny, whether it’s reading an erotic story, looking at erotic images, or sneaking away for a hot bath alone with your fantasies.

Lastly, I think the best piece of advice I can offer is this: do something! It’s so easy to treat these kinds of problems as if they aren’t important… to tuck them away because we’re embarassed… or maybe we’re just busy. Whatever you do, start actively working on your own sexuality. You can improve your sex life, so don’t give up. Talk to your lover, research on the web, or visit your doctor. Lock the door and masturbate like a maniac. Talk to your girlfriends and find out what works for them. These are modern times girls and it’s time to take the proverbial bull by the horns and demand that our needs be fulfilled. And the only one that can do that, is you.

This article is copyright, 2004, all rights reserved. You may not re-print this article without written permission from the webmistress. All inquiries should go to monica@monicaweb.net